maturity speaks

From a daughter to her mother

Our relationship is kind of like the secret recipe that even successful people just cant share, expose or even utter in words...we hold each other so dear to ourselves. not only the unniverse, but even us may not see the love that we have for one another, but through the years, our maturity speaks and as a result our love, kindness, compassion and relationship grows tougher and more admirable.

happy birthday sisi

Growing up at a boarding school, away from known comforts of being known whose you are...to a place where each person / child / learner finds their own place and identity has a way of undermining the effect and role of parents and family elders - bcoz its just tempting and easy to think that if i have made it through the ranks of boarding school therefore i know it all.

My relationship with my mother, as a result, is not one of those in the movies...we dont party together. even when there is a function at home, we dont hang out together...and we both know it. theres lots of stuff that we have not included in our curriculum of conversations and exposures for a long long time, but theres the built-in-love, support and encouragement that even though we do not utter in the romantic or even unromantic ways, we both know that it is there.

for me, it has taken maturity to see, acknowledge, believe and understand that i love my mother and that she loves me more. it is only now that i begin to see that in the choices that she made, my interests were built into those. for sure she made different choices from what i think or presume i would have, but God knows that she did her utmost best.

Her name is Nontsikelelo and on this day 60 yrs ago, she was born as the first born of my grandparents.

in those days, parents were not very happy for a girl child as their first born because the patriarchal rules of the society expected the boy child to be an heir...but my grandparents still gave her Nontsikelelo which means Blessing. My mom was blessed to have her both parents. with the power that she was given as the first born child, she took great responsibility for all her siblings...their conditions of growing up were tough, but she kept on...she is still a blessing to all of us in the family.

and her maturity speaks because she just knows that we adore her...we dont show it, we dont say it and she may not even feel it most of the times but her maturity speaks and for that, she knows that it is there.

happy birthday Sis Ntsiki, happy 60th MaZotsho...may God grant u many more.